How dare John McCain?
How dare John McCain pick a woman who gave birth to a new baby 4 months ago to be his running mate. And how dare Sarah Palin accept?
As a mother, I am horrified to think that she cares so little about her new role as mother to her fifth child that she thinks it is appropriate to run for Vice President. Seriously. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a working mother. I was and am. But I remember the day that I realized that my twins needed me more than I thought they would; the day that I realized that my role as mother was different from any other role that I will play in my entire life. On that day, I was overwhelmed by the fact that my special duties as a mother didn't stop with giving birth. I needed to be 100% emotionally available to my children. We don't understand this until our children teach us this and when they do, we must be prepared to respond.
Perhaps since this is her fifth child, this is old hat for her. Perhaps she can pass her new baby off to her teenage daughters or hired help. Perhaps she is just so amazing that being a mother to 5 and running for Vice President isn't spreading herself too thin. That is her decision to make, I know. But shame on John McCain. Shame on him for not seeing how important being a mother to a newborn is. Shame on John McCain for being so out of touch that he thinks that women will think it is acceptable for this woman to spend the long hours it will take to be Vice President away from her small children.
Frankly, I have often felt that Barack Obama is selfish for being away from his young children as well. At least the Obamas are always talking about how they have a grandmother there to help with their girls. But it still stresses me out that as a father he thinks it is ok to spend that much time away from his young children.
I think that any woman with children will know what I am talking about when I say that the special time that you have with a new baby in that first year is just too important to lose. Being Vice President is not and will not ever replace the time this woman is losing with her children. There is nothing wrong with a woman doing and being anything that she wants to be, but I think there is something wrong with someone who thinks it is ok to put her family through the ugly hell that is an American election. But I suppose we should expect this from a woman who proudly sends her 19 year old son to war. Her values are completely screwed up.
Have we gotten this confused to think that it is ok for anyone to abandon their young children for a job? I'm not talking about regular parents who go to regular 9 to 5 jobs. I am talking about running for Vice President. There is no excuse for any man or woman to involve themselves with running for office when they are already the most important person in the world to a four month old baby. It is just madness.
Even though I am a liberal democrat, I never hated John McCain. But now I know he completely disrespects family and the role of parents, especially mothers. And to those women who are super excited to see that, yes, a woman can do it all! A breast feeding Vice President! People can and do spread themselves too thin. And the people who suffer don't often have the voices to express it.
Because in the end, isn't your family more important than your country? I know mine is.


Comments
I had a milder, but similar reaction when I heard she had a 4 month old. I just recently went back part-time after 3 months of parental leave and I feel like that was about the right amount of time. For me. But I can't imagine being asked to do a 24-7 job like running for VP. I know that a lot of women have to go back to work within a week or two of having their babies, but that is just WRONG. No one should have to do that. Funny that McCain's party is supposed to be the party of "family values". And it reminds me that no one is talking daycare in this election. Since I became a mom, I keep thinking about whether I'll have another kid. As it stands daycare costs more than half my take-home pay, so having another would mean stopping working, at least as I do now... It is a hard decision to make. On so many levels - financial, emotional, etc. - I honestly have no idea how single moms are able to do this.
Posted by: allison | August 30, 2008 3:01 AM
right! and how on earth could this family afford private school and daycare for those 4 kids in washington, dc on the salary of the vice president. seriously?
i had to go back to work after only 2 months home at first. it was terrible, but i was completely relieved. it took about 6 more months before i figured out that i couldn't emotionally handle the stress of infant twins AND being at work all day.
Posted by: tina seamonster | August 30, 2008 7:07 AM
I've read a few things that allude the baby isn't actually hers, but is her teenage daughter's and she's covering it up since she's pro Abstinence Only in schools. So maybe that's why it's easy for her to walk away? Assuming it's true, anyway.
I can't really blame McCain for overlooking the baby thing. I mean, he's overlooked so many other things when choosing her as a candidate simply to have that female VP that would turn Clinton supporter heads..what's a 4 month old with Down Syndrome?
Posted by: Audrey | August 31, 2008 11:08 AM
With you 100%, on top of accepting this offer from McCain, her fifth child has down syndrome. Does this make it more appalling? I don't know...
http://www.adn.com/news/alaska/story/382560.html
Posted by: Colleen | August 31, 2008 12:42 PM
Well I know after 4 children I couldn't and haven't done it. Choosing to work at home and raise my children to be there for them, and I don't have a special needs baby with downs like she does.
P.S. if you want anything on my etsy Tina I'll pay the postage since I owe you a few $$
Hope you are all well. Bright blessings
Posted by: Pagan Moon | August 31, 2008 4:58 PM
Well said. I can't imagine as a mom, leaving a 4 month old - especially one with special needs. She must have an AMAZING support system. Or does the VP position come with 100% free child care???
Posted by: Carrie G | September 1, 2008 11:41 PM